CAN DANCING HELP HASTEN GRIEF RECOVERY?

COPING WITH GRIEF&LOSS
SEEKING THE HEALING OF GREAT SPIRIT

HOW I HAVE USED DANCE FOR EMOTIONAL HEALING                     APRIL 2005,was a day that shook my world and felt as though I had my entire last 25 years and my soulmate taken from me , a good man,best friend, one with whom I had lived beside longer  than any parent. I already had severe PTSD(Post traumatic stress syndrome, so this is stress amplified. The change in financial status not only changed:I lost my home as well.Survival required that I, go numbly breathing, but not having ttime to go throgh the normal stages of grief. I truly became one person with my soulmate, a great warrior, cauht in a war,that no one wanted, I ,as his nurse first, married after 6 weeks of knowing that this man I could live and grow with till the inevitable happened, but suddenly. I know that most experts on grieving say, it takes 3 years to recover from the sting of losses like this. It has taken me many different paths ,trying to remember who I was before my soulmate. When I was starting to deal with grief more, a year or so later,I knew I had to keep breathing and find purpose and a new identity.There were many things I wanted to do ,that I was unable to accomplish for one reason or another when I was younger. I stayed busy with training my horses and decided to join the 21st century and learn how to use cells and computers. I got another harley,when I got back on my feet. This is therapy for PTSD and the wind has a power to allow one to ride it,whether it be flesh or steel/iron horse, you can run away for a while and still keep the farm. Still, I went throgh the “feel sorry for myself” phase,until I knew that this was self-destructive. I had always wanted to study dance, and the computer and a few dvds later, I have become  an individual,who carries all of the things I learned from my man,and am better for doing so. I searched until I found a egyptian-cabaret style dance class of middle eastern dance. It had been a long time since I was arond others. My hubby and I were loners, together.I know that dance is not for all, but it was used by my native ancestors and scottish, to relieve stress and is proven beneficial for many things. I am a danceaholic now. The little girl,who knew no childhood is alive and enjoying her first childhood.It is something we all endure and good can be born from bad things.If you are dealing with loss, I think nelping,seeking those who have a worse story to show, and seeking that inner child is crucial to survival,at least a  healthy existence. My heart goes out to those , who are suffering this part of their journey, and I hope you can ask yourself,”Who was I before a careless word.etc., squished that dream or dreams? ?” DON’T ALLOW YOUR AGE, OR NAYSAYERS, to stop reachable dreams and ideals. Uur journey has many rocks,esp. the narrow, good road. But we can be stronger and better for every thing, good or bad, that has made us who we are now. The few things we have power over, are there, attitude, willingness to expand our minds and to a large degree, becomin stronger , more flavorful human beings, with character gained,and this comes from our best and worst choices in life. It is all,good and bad, that makes us the beautiful butterfly , that did not start out as such, but changed and grew graceful. BATTLESCARS? You bet! But the lines of character in our face are beautiful also, for we are wiser and if we smile, a pretty young person becomes a beautiful elder, if we are granted the privilege of life of length. HAPPY HOLIDAYS&PROSPERITY TO ALL,GYPSY.

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CORRECTION ON FOOTCARE BLOG

THIS ARTICLE WAS NY PUBLICATION, I HAD LISTED DANCE ADVANTAGE, WHICH I READ, SORRY FOR ERROR.

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FOOTCARE FOR THOSE WHO LOVE DANCE

AS I WAS SURFING AND READING ABOUT MIDDLE EASTERN DANCE,I THOUGHT ABOUT WHAT I HAD LEARNED IN CLASSES THAT WEEK & WHAT DRAWS  ME MORE TO THE MIDDLE EASTERN STYLES OF DANCE THAN ANY OTHER. I CAN DANCE BAREFOOTED. NO PRETTY,BUT, BACK DEFYING, EXPENSIVE, UNCOMFY SHOES TO PURCHASE, AND WEAR. HAVING HIGH ARCHES AND HARD TO FIT FEET,I GAVE UP ON FASHION AND COMFORT BEING SYNONYMOUS ,AT LEAST NOT FOR ME. THIS REMINDED ME OF A TRAUMATIC EXPERIENCE I SHALL ALWAYS REMEMBER. I WAS VERY SMALL, BUT I REMEMBER THAT DREADED DAY, WHEN I WAS TOLD I HAD TO WEAR SHOES ON A REGULAR BASIS. LET THE CIRCUS OF PAIN AND ILLFITTING SHOES BEGIN. I HAD TOUGH SOLES,HEAT AND COLD RESISTANT, EVEN TOUGH ENOUGH TO  RESIST PAIN OF STICKERWEED: SO WHY DID I NEED SHOES?   THIS LEAD ME TO DANCE ADVANTAGE(A GREAT FEED ON DANCE,MAIN FOCUS IS BALLET ,BUT GREAT BLOG FOR ALL WHO LOVE DANCE).THEY HAD A GREAT ARTICLE ON HOW OUR FEET FUNCTION AND WHY WE HAVE PROBLEMS, IT IS REALLY WORTH READING, EVEN IF YOU JUST HAVE FOOT PAIN AND WANT MORE KNOWLEDGE. HERE IS THE ARTICLE:

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BELLYDANCE EQUIPMENT

THE WILD BUNCH

I recently found more goodies to enhance my belly and hip strength and bone density, and build abs more effectively. This belt, sold @ Delilahs’ blog is used at home or at class. She has class live in nw United States just for power belly training: living in southwest, I plan to invest in one. I did find great class in Tucson,Az,and really am loving it. The homework dvd study has just enhanced my skills and now I have the benefit of a well-known performer, guiding me 3x /week. If you live in this area and want live classes, I highly recommend Xanadu studio, with the talented, lovely, Kathryn Ferguson. She won’t break your bank account and has flexible hours,several plans, all ages and is pleasant and thorough. My friends, I refer to as mom, and grams(they adopted me and vice-versa may be attending soon. They range 70-89yrs. old. Here is pic of us on halloween, i made up costumes at the last minute for the masquerade dance. Grams is so sweet wearing my biker clothes, my short legs were a blessing, since they are petite height. Mom was pro tap/flamenco dancer in Tucsons’ “Hot Flashes in her 50s, my age. Grams sang&played guitar right to Nashvilles’ door, but decided to pursue motherhood instead. Despite moms’ recent brain surgery&grams’hip& carotid surgery, we danced 6 hours, and loved it. We plan on going to valentine dance as well.So , there goes any excuses, except docs’ advised and considered advice. At any rate, here we are”THE WILD BUNCH”,bikers,bellydancers &gypsy dancers.Also, I posted link with delilahs’ great belt, her blogs are awesome,and Santa may bring me the plain belt and some of her dvds to help during practice between classes.After all practice is important-speakin of practice-gotta go! Happy dancing-dance to be happy!GYPSY INGRAM-STOW

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Belly Dancing Weight Belts from Visionary Dance Productions

Belly Dancing Weight Belts from Visionary Dance Productions

via Belly Dancing Weight Belts from Visionary Dance Productions.

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AFFORDABLE COSTUMES FOR BELLYDANCE

I have the hourglass type shape, so i am starting off with costumes for medium heighth  , larger bone structure,which don’t give the added hip attention.more fitted to hip area, but pro costume includes hip belt with lots of shimmy show and complements hip moves.  These first two costumes are a back top(I added proper bra  for support & lift, since it has a one size for all shape. Strapless   bras are inexpensive and if needed there are securing tapes through walgreens or dance supply(through dancers’ advantage is a great place I enjoy),not only is the ballet blog great for ballet needs-child-adult,but the dance supply who sponsors their blog is great.gloves of all lengths,styles,materials,from2.99-12.99 range,they have well made dancewear and all colors of glitter.The black skirt is stretchy, comfy , with elaborate design, just add bra/gloves. The animal print has similiar top+slotted  sided harem pants. Great to motivate bellydance practice,each under $50. I found these online @ MISS BELLYDANCE,wonderful place to shop.Love their quality @ reasonable prices, I also found the royal blue “octopus design there,comes with veil/lovely beaded ,lines bra(most need slip-in gelpads,or shoulder pad ,if no gel ,but gelpads are available at walgreens,etc. This is helpful to secure you during movement, and slots are built-in pro-line/heavy coin bras for these./headgear/arm decor/matching belt/ and lovely skirt. I have another, I have yet to photo,also their proline,but will wear makeup and hair this when I post. I was referred to a chart to size,and these were custom-made,all four were less than $200 shipped.I have shopped online for months before purchase and will continue to help beginners find these ,esp. working moms, who have no time for research. Keep in mind, that there are appropriate costumes for different backgrounds/cultures. It can really take time and research to learn what is ok with what to wear and dance style and what might be offensive to a culture. I am sticking to George Medlock type music,which has great drills to learn to shimmy at different speeds,etc. In this way, i have more time to study lyrics in arabic,and meaning of and origins of song. For me at this point, I have found drum solos and instrumental music safe for my education level. Their are links you can join, that teach interpretations and proper costuming. It is quite a journey, without an instructor live in class setting.But it is a start,and if you are motivated wear favorite workout suit,and when yo can, coin belts come in all colors/shapes,and can be as cheap as $19.99. I will doublecheck my receipts and get some of my favorite online shopping sites.I used cheaper digital camera,but when Santa brings my video cam, the pics/videos will look better, but this will give you an idea of how they look .

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Bellydance by Dolphina (via Dunedin Public Libraries News & Reviews Blog)

she is so easy to follow, i started out with her beginner workout,gotta nave this one for me

Bellydance by Dolphina This slickly produced, slim volume with its clear demonstrative photographs is produced by DK and authored by Dolphina, the American dancer/fitness instructor responsible for the Goddess Workout videos. It focuses primarily on descriptions, accompanied by colourful photographs, of some basic movements, with instructions for some very simple beginners' movement sequences. Costuming and music are also briefly covered, and the summary of bellydance … Read More

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